Could You Forgive Someone Who Brutally Murdered Your Own Daughter Due to Pure Discrimination?

Assalamualaikum wbt.

Bullying and abuse has been a hot issue lately what with the tragic and shocking local murders of three young souls: Mohd Thaqif, Zulfarhan and Nhaveen.

A girl on Twitter made a thread on how she was personally lived through the brutal murder of her mother, brother, and maid, but the murderer now walks free, living in Ipoh and going to movies because of ‘lack of evidence’. He got a good lawyer.

I just felt angry when I read that thread. I can’t imagine going through the horrific trauma of something like that. It would haunt somebody for the rest of their life.

And then a few days ago 17-year-old Nabra from the United States got murdered.


According to the Guardian,

Asked if he thought his daughter was killed because she was Muslim, Hassanen replied: “I believe so, 100%. In the McDonald’s there’s a lot of kids, a lot of people; why did he run behind this girl especially? For what?

‘When I go to court I’m going to look him in the eye: why did you do this to my daughter? Then I’m going to forgive him and leave him to God’s face. The Lord is going to judge him. He took my daughter’s life.’

I’m just blown away and totally stunned by that answer. He said he’s going to forgive somebody who he believes brutally murdered his own daughter because of pure discrimination. Most people don’t forgive people who steal their food from the fridge. Or not giving a signal from their car before making a turn. Or becoming ‘passengers’ on group assignments.

I salute you, Mr. Hassanen, for truly acting upon the Prophet’s teachings and following his akhlaq. May we all do so, too. Ramadhan is the month of forgiveness, after all.

It’s not actually fun to hate and have revenge against someone. You are the one who suffers. You are the one who becomes terribly stressed and irritated when the guilty person doesn’t feel a thing. When you choose to forgive, you choose to set yourself free.

Lagipun, kurang sikit masa kat Padang Mahsyar sebab anda tak kata ‘kau merangkak lah cari aku kat Padang Mahsyar nanti!!!’. Cepat sikit masuk syurga InsyaAllah. Beruntung kot orang yang mampu memaafkan ni.

A reminder for myself, who often finds it hard to forgive. Allah loves to forgive those who love to forgive.